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Nanny roles from the angle of residence – live- in nanny

When we consider to employ a nanny we should think about what type of nanny do we need. There are many different type of nanny roles we can offer for the right candidate.

First of all we should consider if we want our nanny to live with us. There are three different type of nanny roles from the angle of residence:

1. live-in nanny, 2. live out nanny, 3. hybrid nanny

1. live-in nanny:

The nanny lives in the family’s home, she has her own room/ floor/ accomodation. Her room is her own, she can keep her stuff in there. The nanny can use the furnitures, the kitchen, sometimes she has her own bathroom but usually she uses the children’s one. It depends on the family if the nanny can use the computer (if yes, there is usually a private account for her with own password). If the nanny can use the family’s computer, there is a paragraph in the contract about using the computer properly (like not to check violent or adult pages, etc.). If the family has landline phone, it is good to make it clear if the nanny can use it and how.

The live in nanny role is an interesting situation. Someone adult lives in your home who is not your spouse. She is a grown-up with her own things. It depends on the family if they let the nanny ask over her friends or boyfriend sometimes. But because of the nanny spend so much time with the family and she doesn’t really have her own life, she likes to spend her free time out of the house. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like the family, it only means she wants to live her own life when she actually doesn’t have to work.

If you want to employ a live-in nanny, you have to be sure you can live together with her. When you write your advertisement and especially when you write your contract, you have to be very clear what the person can do in the house or not. It is like you rent your room to someone else. And here we go the question: if you rent that room?

I think there is a big mass about the live-in nanny job in the people’s heads. A live-in nanny doesn’t have a proper status in the house. She is not family, not a guest, not a tenant. So what is she? You can’t really answer this question from this angle.

The right answer is: a live-in nanny is your employee. She works for you from the morning to the evening, she looks after your child(ren) and you pay for her with money plus accomodation.  You choose to pay her this way, and from that time she moves in she will be really a part of the household and hopefully a part of your family (for the child(ren)’s sake).

The other problematic question with the live-in nanny job is the working time. If there is a problem between the family and the nanny, usually this would be the first. If you employ a nanny she will have the same rights as any other employee. She has the same rights as you at work. It is just a topographical question if she works in your house. When you write a contract you set her working time in black and white and you pay her weekly for that amount of job. If she works more, you have to pay overtime for her. It is not a good way to think: oh, the nanny is in the house all the time so she can look after the kids for some hours when we are going out or I pop around the neighbour’s or any other time. The nanny is your employee with settled working hours. If you want to ask her to do some overtime you should give her enough nottice and pay for her extra hours. You can choose to mess her over with the ‘she is here anyway’ thought but after a time the nanny will feel to be used and she will start to think to look for another job.

The live-in nanny job can be tough if you don’t make clear rules in the beginning and stick with them. But this is a really nice and engaging type of job as well. A live-in nanny can become a part of your family and it is really close bond for your child(ren) which is a good thing if you have to work long-long hours.


Your sincerely,

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

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