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How to do shopping with the little one

I know I know. Every parent faces the problem at least once a week. Going shopping is one of the biggest nightmare for the parents and nannies. It is not enough that we have to go to the shopping centre, push a big trolley but our little one(s) usually starts to be hyperactive and play up by the time we arrive to the fist shelf in the shop. And if it wouldn’t be enough for our nerves the people are staring at us why we torture the apple of our eyes.

So how can we prevent this situation?

There are some really good tricks I usually do if it comes down to go shopping with babies or toddlers. The first and most important rule is: don’t go shopping first thing after a nap or just before any playgroup or play date. The child is full of energy and if they know their routine they know something interesting will happen (monkey music, museum, climbing, singing, etc.) So they will think the shop is a big play ground. First they will get all excited about the lovely colourful stuff on the shelves. So when you won’t let them out of the buggy or touch the things (not to mention pack the shelves) they will be disappointed and start to scream or cry.

The second important thing: never go shopping right before lunch or dinner. The child will be right after playtime, starving to death without any tolerance or patience. You will be lucky if you can make it home to feed them. So do yourself a favour and don’t even think about: oh I just pop into the shop and buy some things I need.

Another big nono for me going shopping when the baby or toddler is asleep. I usually like them to stay in bed while they have their usual nap. It is better for them (they get proper sleep) and better for us (we get some free time home alone). Of course it is up to anyone’s habits and time but I usually keep this one as golden rule. If we take the sleeping child to the shop they can wake up and get frightened what’s going on around them. Which means crying, loads of time to calm them down, shopping goods on the floor and a miserable kid in the hand:S

According to your own routine you can find the time between two playtime when they have snacks to go and do the shopping. When they had a good run around and they quite hungry for a snack that’s the time when you can put them into the buggy, run to the shop, open a nice packet of healthy child snack and tadam you can do the shopping without any disturbance because your 1-2-year-old will be too busy munching the rice cake or the raisins out of the pocket. There are loads of suitable and healthy child treats you can buy for them. (Always read the packet and make sure it is age appropriate for them!!!)

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How to put your toddler into his or her bed after co-sleeping…

Tough question because they got used to sleep with you. That’s why it is much better to make up a baby room when they are tiny so they can get used to sleep by themselves.

I can’t tell a “fun” way to put them in their bed because that doesn’t exist. They got used to sleep with you so they have to get used to sleep in their room. You can put them in their bed at sleeping time and wait their with them until they fall asleep. If you stroke their back or pet/pat their bottom, they go to sleep quite fast. If you are their with them in the first some months (until they get used to it) than they will be fine.

The other question why they wake up during the night: it can be because they are cold. Try to make sure they are enough warm. They can kick the blanket off so if you put a nice and warm pyjama or sleeping bag on them it helps.

– If they wake up in the middle of the night, don’t let them go into your bed  and sleep there. Go into their room and if nothing helps, lay down next to them in their bed until they go back to sleep and after sneak back into your room.

– I know it is not nice to hear that they are crying but if you let them sleep with you they will have never got used to their room. It will take up some months until they will settle down in their room. Put loads of cuddly toys in their bed so they won’t feel alone, make sure they are not hungry when they go to the bed because they can wake up in the middle of the night because of their empty tummy. Put a baby monitor in their room, so you can hear when they are crying so you can go into their room and not the other way around.

– Make a ritual around bedtime. Dinner, bath, go to the bed, sit their, talk to them, read a story, turn off the light and let them sleep. Usually 10 – 15 minutes what you have to stay with them until they fall asleep.

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– If they are not calm, you can use lavender essence/scent in their room or with their bath to make them calm and ready for the bed. Don’t let them run around before bedtime because that makes them hyperactive and it will be much harder to put them into the bed and asleep.  Do something nice and calm, like drawing, reading a story, look at a book with pictures and let them talk about it. The main thing that they have to feel they are safe in their room. And even you don’t sleep with them but you will go into their room when they need you. So they do not have to be afraid that they are alone or get lost, or mummy and daddy disappeared. Especially in the dark.

Yours sincerely,

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

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First Aid Course

Honestly I went to my First Aid Course with a big “bah, it is Sunday and I am out of the house ewwww…” feeling. It was cold, morning and Sunday. And it was not the first weekend course I’ve been testing in the last some weeks. So I felt like ok, I finished with this one and no more weekend hassle anymore. I turned up at Thurleigh road and was waiting for the miracle = a course that can tell me something exciting, new…

And there we went the miracle happened. I’ve met one of the most interesting and charismatic person I’ve met for a long time. Susan Patterson-Smith is one of those people who you have to meet at least once in your lifetime:) She has more qualifications in Childcare, First Aid, Beauty training, Parenting, Massage, etc. than 100 average people all together.  But all those papers wouldn’t worth anything without her personality.

I’ve been working with children and families for 10 years and in this weekend I’ve realized how important to have First Aid Qualification under your belt. No one usually like to think about “what if something wrong happens…”. So we usually choose not to look at those directions. Because if we look at there it would happen… And OMG how bad is that!!! But the sad thing that accidents happen time after time. And when they are here we have no idea what to do except to pray for God.

Have you ever thought what to do if your baby swallow a tiny piece of something and choke on it? Do you know how to remove that piece without harm him or her further more? Do you know what to say to an ambulance when something happens with your beloved ones? It can save their lives! Do you know what CPR is and when do you have to use it? Do you know what is in your First Aid Kit and how to put them on? Do you know how you can safeguard your children if they show certain signs of being harmed?

If you have at least one answer: NO, than you certainly need a First Aid Training. Because it can save your children’s or husband/wife’s life. You don’t have to wait for something bad happens but when it does you can step up and do something useful until the Ambulance comes. And many times that ‘doing something’ is the difference between life and death.

Susan has First Aid Courses for families, nannies, anyone who would like to learn how to save lives. She has courses from 4-hour-long to 12-hour-long (for OFSTED registration). She also holds baby massages and different kind of courses all about pre and post natal treatments and First Aid. And last but not least she has one of the best humour under the sun:) She holds her private sessions any places (in your home) in South London or her organized sessions at 88a Thurleigh road, London, SW12 8TT.

I highly recommend to work with her and send your nanny and the whole family to a First Aid Course because children always climb, fall, swallow, choke. It makes a big difference if you know what to do!!!

If you want to contact her:

– Susan Patterson-Smith (The Baby Lady)

– website: www.thebalm.co.uk/

– Phone: 07932761312

If you don’t live in London or would like to have different kind of courses:

www.google.com – type in: First Aid Course and choose one close to your home:)

Your sincerely,

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

Adrienn’s Professional Family and Youth Coach Profile

Nanny roles from the angle of residence – live out nanny

When we consider to employ a nanny we should think about what type of nanny do we need. There are many different type of nanny roles we can offer for the right candidate.

First of all we should consider if we want our nanny to live with us. There are three different type of nanny roles from the angle of residence:

1. live-in nanny, 2. live out nanny, 3. hybrid nanny

2. live out nanny:

The picture of this nanny job is more clear than the live-in type. You have an employee who has her own home and she comes into your house every day to look after your child(ren). She has a clear contract, a settled time, she goes home when she finishes her job. That’s why it is more clear to the parents to give her enough nottice when they want to ask her to stay longer and pay her as overtime.

A live out nanny comes into your house, looks after your child(ren) during the day, organizes playdates, trips to museums, playgrounds, makes food for the child(ren) during the day and she does every job that a nanny have to during the day. And when her finishing time comes she goes home to her family.

Ususally a live out nanny with good experience and/or qualifications earns £9 – 12 / hour net. She is an employee so you have to pay her tax and NI number.  http://www.nannytax.co.uk/ – this is the company who always did my tax work for the families who I worked with. It is a good company, cheap and really reliable. You have to register with them and if you pay their yearly fee you get loads of support from them on phone, in email or you can meet them in their office.

Having a live out nanny is a big help with the children. If you don’t have time during the day to be with your child(ren) and you don’t trust the day nurseries than the best thing you can do to employ a live out nanny. She will look after your child(ren) during the day and make sure they are in a safe, healthy and stimulating environment. And she will go home in the evening so you will have your private family time in the evening.

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

Adrienn’s Professional Family and Youth Coach Profile

Nanny and au pair

I am just searching around the advertisements on gumtree (www.gumtree.com). I am looking for a new family who I can work with part time so I will have time to improve my skills and my business. I’ve found some really interesting advertisement and gorgeous kids:)

And I’ve found some advertisement where the parents are a bit confused what they want and how much money they would pay for the right candidate.

First of all they are really confused what is the difference between a nanny and an au pair.

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Nanny is the person who usually work with your children, she is like a second mum, she usually works 30 – 50 hours a week, she has qualifications and/or experience and you become her employer. A good nanny earns 9-12 pounds net per hour.

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Au pair is a person who usually live in your house, work with your kids before or after school, they job is the school running, making pack lunch, she usually works approx. 5 hours a day. She doesn’t speak your language very well or is a student. She doesn’t have experience and/or qualifications. Usually she lives with you and you pay approx. 60 – 100 pounds per week for her.

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The difference between the two job is:

– the nanny job is a legal job with contract, per hour selery, with concrete job criterias. If you employ a nanny you will be responsible for paying tax, NI number, but if you get a good nanny you can be sure your children are in good and professional hands. A nanny usually works 8 – 10 hours per day with babies and/or toddlers who needs to be in good care all day long.

– the au pair job is suitable for a family who has bigger children who are full time in school. So they need a helping hand before and after school until the parents come home from work.The au pair job usually suitable for students who live with parents or someone who can’t speak ‘the language of the country where she works’ properly. So she can live in the family’s home, she can help them out and during her free time when the kids are in school she can go to language school or look around in the city.

If you are a parent and looking for someone to help you out, please, consider, what type of person do you want, and what job do you want to give her. If you put an advertisement on, you can save time for the candidate and for yourself, if you write an advertisement with clear job criterias.

About a good advertisement: in my next post:)

Yours sincerely,

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

Adrienn’s Professional Family and Youth Coach Profile

Bethnal Green Museum of Childhood

Here we go weekend comes:) We finish the work for the week and we have enough time to be with our loved ones. This is brilliant but… What on the Earth we can do with the kids in our freetime ?

Everyone knows there are three things can turn our children from an angel to a monster: tiredness, boredness, hunger… Well, feeding a kid is not really a problem. They eat nearly everything if they are hungry (believe me I’ve seen it in the nursery:D) We can put them to sleep anytime when they are tired. They will sleep… But what to do with the third one? What entertainment we can offer them when they are not in the nursery?

Well, museums are one of the best offer the world can show to us. Nowadays they are interactive, full of toys and really really children friendly. So if you are free in the weekend and don’t know what to do with your child, just sit down in front of your computer and search for ‘museum for children’ on google. And yaaaaaaaay you can choose …

If you are in London one of the best place you can take your children is the Bethnal Green Museum of Childhood. I went there with one of my previous family (I am still a nanny) and the two kiddos loved that place. We were there for hours and they kept finding more and more new things to play with.

The museum is a part of the Victoria and Albert Museum (South Kensington). It collects toys, games, children cloathes and any other children related objects since the 18. century. There are historical places where you can follow the story of the children’s life during the centuries. There are rooms when the kids can dress up (many different fancy dresses), play with rocking horses, dolls, different kind of toys. They can play with toys from the last 3 century. And I mean toys, not computer games and different digital thingies. And it is so cool. It worth to see their face when they go to the inside sandpit or the Victorian Toy Kitchen Corner. It is awesome. The best time to go there is winter. It is difficult to find places to play with our children when we can’t stay in the park or they can’t sit down and use the sand pit or the swing and the slide. This museum is really a treasure for a child.

http://www.vam.ac.uk/moc/your_visit/index.html

Yours sincerely,

Adrienn Faklya

Child-style Coaching

Adrienn’s Professional Family and Youth Coach Profile